........:P you analyze to much. :D i knew you would jump the GUN...:D...anyway i may feel something personally doesnt mean i will support it....It will take the force of heavens to shift that line of action.
In one's fight against what one thinks is injustice ......Isolation embitters you...but you emerge stronger like a Phoenix from its own ashes.
learning to forgive and letting go...is an endless journey...and i wasnt born a saint.....but i can become one should i chose to.
Perhaps that is a way of the universe to prepare a individual for bigger , responsible and more formidable roles...
this is something that a sick mind of a ragger may not comprehend.....and so such a person is doomed...
A sick mind ...leads to a sick individual..to a sick family ..to a sick community and a sick nation....
When we fail to curb such nuisance ,,,we are headed for the gutter...or may be we are almost there...
long time back..in my neighbourhood there came to live a family. This family had a kid of five.
one fine day i was outside taking my dog for the morning walk. As i passed the house the boy dashed out with what looked like a semi automatic machine gun toy..pressing the trigger and making similar noises as the machine gun it self... gnashing his teeth he pretended he was shooting everyone. my dog started barking and it took me some effort to prevent him from attacking the boy.
his mother was standing at the gate smiling prettily...as if her son had just won the best student of the year award...:(
i asked her why this all of a sudden. She replied...ohh..you see there are some boys who push him around in the playground so we got him the gun...and grinned..
I said this is no way of resolving the problem. But i guess she thought otherwise. According to her ....her son felt more powerful... :(
What an argument..isnt it? but no one things this will create a unbalanced personality in the long run ruining the life.
The point is simply this...ragging...is a not confined to rich or poor....a person who is ragged may vent his or her frustration by ragging others...
The argument being....Because it was done to me.....so it shall be onto you....
i have seen rich and poor alike ragging..i have seen those never got ragged or gave ragging...taking ragging....and worst of all i have seen those ragged mercilessly....shamelessly resorting to same technique as it was done to them.
so the only thing that matters is that teachers and parents must be on look out for trouble spots. This is a sick mind...it needs counselling and psychological help....
It is a weak mind that cannot resolve its inner conflicts and is unable to choose between right and wrong...
Strong parental guidance where there is less criticism and more a way to resolve adolescent confusions..without imposing decisions....and with support of teachers disciplined guidance and counselling can remove this problem to an extent.
It is essential, very very essential..to build a healthy society....
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Dr. Padma Misra
Associate Professor
Head (MBA Program)
IIMT Management College, Meerut
Mobile no:09897141341
On Sat, Oct 6, 2012 at 2:49 PM, Stephen Narayanan <stepnrn@gmail.com> wrote:
Kudos Dr.Misra,
Your testimony comes across as an eye opener and atleast partially corroborates my point that ragging did not come out from the west. I don't deny that Ragging is not prevalent in the West...as underlined by you...wherever there is a sparkling mind....there would definitely be detractors who would want to cut him down to size perhaps due to the jealousy they might perceive him as being center of attraction which they could not be. In fact this would perhaps be a very ideal opportunity for anybody into psychology to study the behavioral aspects of a bully....the reasons which drive him to engage in ragging...is it a sense of rejection... I take back my word about affluent kids being bully going through your testimony....rather as I said it is the mind game which is all the reason for ragging.
I commend your spirit in standing up to fight it out and I'm sure this quality will definitely stand the test of time in future too. I'm sure we all agree that Ragging is not good and we all detest it....what I meant when I said that most bullies are from Rich influential families was to underscore the point that children from poor families know that they are the torch bearers to lift up the standards of their struggling families and hence they are focused and studious....and for this very reason they become targets of other haughty students who don't like a sparkling mind..... I do not deny that there could be sparkling minds from affluent families too... I have gone through the testimony of MTC Founder and President our own dear Dr.Bholanath who has seen struggles through his student and college life and we can say he is another of those sparkling minds.
But I beg to differ from your comment :- Sometimes then one feels there are people in this world who do deserve to get ragged.
We all agree that ragging is a detestable bane...unwelcome in a civilized world....just because a person did not stand upto ragging does not mean that they deserve to get ragged. One needs to understand the servile or submissive nature of a person which perhaps is the outcome of a struggle filled upbringing....they are perhaps unable to come out of their own well of sorrow....I have only sympathy for them.
The Rich poor divide is well borne out by the ragging of a poor dalit boy who was done to death by being beaten up by Intern Doctors a year back...beaten up with cricket bats...Yes I'm referring to the much publicized - Aman Kachroo incident which is not too old. There could be many others which go unreported as well.
Besides the College appointed committee members for Anti-Ragging....we all as citizens and torchbearers to discipline students should also take it as a responsibility to snuff out any such happenings which come to our notice.
Warm Regards,
Stephen
Stephen NarayananGeneral Manager - Corporate Resource CenterNew Delhi Institute of Management.60, Tughlakabad Institutional Area,New Delhi.Tel.:- (011) 29956566-69/40111000: Extn.217.Mob.:-9868386192
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