Our children (Comparative study)

Ladies & Gentlemen,

As Africans we consider a  family as that with children . That explains why nine months post wedding without a child rings alarm bells. In those days the woman was usually at fault. Thanks to modernisation men are also accountable for the lack of off - springs within a matrimonial setting.

This email is an overview regarding the cultural descrepancies existing between children born and raised in the West compared with their contemporaries in Africa and with those who  relocated  to the West at a later stage in their lives.

Below are characteristic findings of our children born and raised in the West.

1) Selfishness 2) Laziness) 3 ) Tendency to report their parents to the local authorities eg police if you shout at them. 5) In times of trouble they refer to their parents by their names. 

6) They just dont want to know about relatives especially second degree relatives.

7) They easily fall into depression.

8)They cant withstand stress.

9) They hate wake keepings and traditional meetings very badly.

Below are some of the positive values of our children born and raised back home or relocated to this society after the age of 10.

1) Very respectful and family orientated. No issue of calling police against their parents.

They will never call their parents by name. They attend wake keepings. Less selfish.

They are motivated regarding education.

Now our comparative study is based on the above findings.

The question is must you have children and where would you prefer to raise them?

The key surrounding this question is that up to 99% of women would like to become a Mom at a  given stage in their lives. But often they fail to understand the implications about environmental impact and cost especially in this part of the world.

This email is  also to sress the fact that having a child is no longer an investment. My fear is that those born and raised in this society could deposit us in old peoples home at a certain point. 

The way forward is to find an equilibrium of both cultures which  could enable our children understand key African values such as looking after our parents.

My advise is to create the opportunity for your children born and raised in this society to visit Africa at least   once a year for a period of no less than 30 days.

Please dont fall into depression if you cant have children. They could be very troublesome for your well being

 In summary,  l'avvenire eza na maboko na yoh. Na bana na you teh.

That is your future lies in your hands and not on your children.

Zambe.