Re: [MTC Global] [Weekend Big Debate- I] Women can't have it all

Respected ALL
                       Mothers were not created by God to sit and watch TV or gossip. Be it nuclear family or joint family, the multifaceted roles of a woman always exist. Whether a working mother or stay at home mother, responsibilities are always tremendous. It will be really unjustified to say that working mothers are not responsible and should feel guilty and non working mothers have no work at home and they are glued to TV. In this era of e commerce, mothers are contributing to the family and enhancing their skills by every possible manner taking good care of their children. This is a very sensitive and personal issue, the choice is of mother's.......whatever it is , whatever she does, it is for the welfare of the child. The wrong notion that nuclear families mothers have less work can be justified as in nuclear families the mother alone has to play the role of joint family be it workwise , sharing of responsibilities or giving child a healthy environment.

After a career of 7.5 yrs in industry and academics with a global exposure,  I feel proud that I am a stay at home mother for my 3.5 year old child and believe me I really don't have time to gossip and watch TV, infact when my child is away at school, I try to get hold of  my research work and visiting teaching assignmens and when she is around I am a full time mother for her.

Lets respect the choices of the mother as she tries to give the best to her child.

Thanks & Regards
Deblina Vashishta
Research Scholar


On Fri, Jul 4, 2014 at 11:23 AM, Swapna Dogiparthy <swapnamgc@gmail.com> wrote:
Respected all,

 I regret to the opinion given by Prof.Vijendra Kumar. Few points mentioned by you it absolutely wrong.
1. watching TV serials
2.Less work in nuclear family.

May be Indra Nooyi gave her opinion..
But who said women in nuclear families has less work whether work is shared by men or not , women has more work. If they don't work how things goes properly.
In joint families work is more and at the same time misunderstandings are also too much. to avoid  differences and to maintain good relations for long periods and many other reasons nuclear families arose.
 women beyond their limit maintain work life balance. Can anyone imagine the work done by women?

its not just cooking?

She maintains, supervises all things perfectly. For one day if man takes the role of a mother ,then he MAY understand.
Working women takes care of  children than house wives. Because they feel that they are involved in work and should not loose care ,concern, responsibility towards children.So they concentrate much on kids. Who has time to sit and gossip.

These are my feelings as a working woman at top level management.

regards,
Swapna.






On Fri, Jul 4, 2014 at 10:45 AM, 'Vijendra Kumar' via Management Teachers Consortium, Global <join_mtc@googlegroups.com> wrote:
Dear Prof. Datta and Others,
Offspring of working mothers will have higher self-esteem and confidence than others. It may be difficult for a high profile wife to give time to their children. But it is possible. It requires husband also to share work at home. If you have open communication and shared responsibility, the children will have a happy time and good feeling towards their parents.
Nowadays, due to nuclear families, household works are not so much and not working wife will have problem in spending time and leads to feeling of not worthy, and they are busy with their long lasting glued to the T.V. Serials and neighborhood gossiping. But the real loss is for their children.
If it is a joint family, working mother can accommodate more time for work in the initial years of marriage also (family dynamics matters). Otherwise, she may have to take a break for a couple of years, once she gets a child.
Once, children are old enough, above 8 years, quality time matters than quantity. It can be given equally by a working mother. With technology in our hand, even communication and monitoring is not an issue.
Regards,
Prof. Vijendra Kumar S.K.
Assistant Professor & Counseling Psychologist
PES University,
Bangalore.


On Friday, July 4, 2014 10:05 AM, Prof. Bholanath Dutta <bnath.dutta@gmail.com> wrote:


Dear Esteemed MTCians,
Happy Friday Morning!!!
 
"PepsiCo's India-born CEO Indra Nooyi, counted among the world's most powerful women, acknowledged that it is difficult to maintain a work-life balance and women "Cannot have it all", saying she doubts if her daughters think she was a good mother".
 
There is a hue and cry over her recent this statement on women.
 
Request esteemed Member's views on the subject.
 
My Experience:
 
It is difficult for a woman to manage both the worlds , family and professional, without the support of the husband [ and others in case of joint family] . I had a challenging experience. When I got married my wife was in HP and later on moved to WebEx and Cisco. When we had a baby girl, I started counselling my wife to shift career as finding it difficult from being away from my native to manage the family. Being from lower-middle class family we never had a dream of becoming a millionaire but just to live a happy life which I follow even today.
 
My wife took break for 4 years. During this time she completed her MA [English- Gold Medalist], MBA and double B.Ed to fit into academic. Now , she is a principal in Lady Vailankanni International School , Bangalore and doing great. We put our daughter also [3.5 years old] in the same school. Even though work – pressure not reduced but under control. I even cook food for my family and do all other works at home [which generally a woman does] so that she gets time and performs well. Many times being a principal she has to slog in the school.  She has proved her credentials in academic also bringing up the school as one of the top destinations for students for quality education. I am happy I could help her through the transition stage. There is happiness and satisfaction at the end…………………….
 
 
 
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Prof. Bholanath Dutta
Founder, Convener & President
MTC Global & Knowledge Cafe
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