There was once a couple that had been married for more than fifty years. They had lived happily together and they shared everything. No secrets were kept from each other. There was, however, one open secret that the woman kept from the man. The wife had a small chest hidden in her closet and she asked her husband to never open it and never to ask her about it. One day, the man told the woman that he really wanted to know what was in the box. She agreed that after so many years, this only secret should be finally shared, and she opened the box. Inside the man saw three small handmade dolls and a stack of money amounting to $30,000. The woman explained. "When we were about to be married," she said, "my mother advised me not to avoid fights if I wanted our marriage to be happy, for it is important to share our true feelings. However, she also advised me that if you ever make me angry about something, I should first keep quiet and make a little doll, only fight after." Her husband was moved. Only three small dolls were in the chest. In all those years of living together, his wife had been angry with him only three times! "This is wonderful my love! That means that I have been a near perfect husband for fifty years and that we have had excellent communication with each other. But tell me my love, where did all of this money come from?" "Oh," she said, "this is the money I made from selling the dolls." Takeaways from the Story: This hilarious story teaches us not to react when we are emotionally activated, instead to wait until our emotions have calmed down before engaging with the other or making any important decisions. One of the most significant things we will learn is to become mindful when we are emotionally activated in any way and to take "time out" - a few minutes, hours or days, until we have re-centered and grounded ourselves. This keeps us from getting sucked into victim mode and engaging in a blame game which never turns out well. For it makes others defensive and unresponsive. It's also good of not avoiding conflict, yet making sure the mind is not filled with anger when bringing up what bothers us.The woman in this story re-channeled her energy by making creative use of her frustration and made a small fortune in the process. Learning to channel our energies in this way is a wonderful skill which we can all learn to use. |
Dr A Jagan Mohan Reddy
Hands that serve are holier than the lips that pray
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